Responsibilities? What are you talking about? What do you mean responsible and for what? These are the questions I pose to you as part of the BDSM community. Before you proceed any farther ask yourself those questions.
We are all ambassadors for the BDSM community whether you want to accept that or not. How we treat "New People" does really have an out come as to how they perceive BDSM. Whether you are a Novice or have been around BDSM for a long time really makes no difference. A new person is looking to you for knowledge so they too can grow. They see the light of BDSM through you as a member of the community.
We all have griped and complained about how the rest of the world perceives us and that we are handed a bad rap. The truth be known I have seen things that are not what I would call being a good ambassador for BDSM. Yes I am going to get on a soap box here for a minute.
It is our responsibility to teach those that want to learn. To teach others how to be safe, proper etiquette and what respect is. If we don't take the time to teach proper safety then we are ignoring our responsibility as a community. If we don't teach proper etiquette how can we expect new people to behave as someone who is part of our community? If we can not show respect for others how in the world could we ever expect to be respected?
I am not saying turn the other cheek by any means. Teach the "Newbie" the right ways. However when confronted by wannabe HNG's that's another story. I am one that has little tolerance for wannabe HNG's. There is no place in the community for those kind of people. They are only looking for the quick thing and is not their way of life at all. I will not let someone take the negative "stereotypes" that are placed on the BDSM community as a whole exploit them. ( Neither should you )
Take time to teach those that want to learn, Do Not Tolerate those that take BDSM to the negative side of things. It is our responsibility as a community to show the rest of the world the good side of us or to be forever misunderstood. If we don't teach all that there is that is good then they will never learn. Remember that BDSM is "Safe, Sane and Consensual"
If we fail to teach safety and one person dies needlessly then we have failed. If we don't teach BDSM etiquette then our community is doomed to be filled with ill mannered people. If we fail to give respect then we will never be respected. You are what makes up the BDSM community and we all make a difference
©Reigen Du Coly
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