No, those aren't the contents of a witch's cauldron! They're ointments that excel at making your lovemaking and erotic evenings sexy, sensual and romantic. Of course, if you don't know how to use them, they can also make your sheets sticky, your hands oily and your head achy and overwhelmed by heavy scents.
How To Use Massage Oils
The first thing to know about massage oils is -- despite what you might think-- lighter is better, for two reasons. Foremost, you'll be slathering the massage oil all over one another's bodies; the last thing you want is a sticky coat you can scrape off with your nails. But also, lighter oils have lighter scents, which means neither of you will swoon from the heady perfumes some manufacturers infuse their oils with. I know, you're thinking that more scent is a good thing, but after you've poured half a bottle of massage oil on your lover, the scent of lavender can get a little overwhelming. Nobody wants to develop head pains during foreplay!
Here are a few hints on using massage oils:
Pour the massage oil directly ontothe skin, instead of on your hand first as you would during a regular massage. He or she will get a sexual sensation from the sudden feeling of the cool massage oil trickling onto his or her skin, and then the warming sensation of your hand rubbing the oil into him or her.
Cover the entire body in the oil! No well-oiled massage should be limited to just the back and shoulders.
We don't recommend using massage oils as a sexual lubricant, although some people do it anyway. However, oftentimes massage oils are too thick to really work as a lubricant, and aren't condom safe. The chemicals used to infuse oils with scents can also irritate sensitive skin.
Warming Oils
Typically, a warming oil is cool when applied to the skin, and then warms either with the touch of a hand rubbing it or somebody blowing on it. These ointments are great for foreplay: massage them into the inner thighs or inside knees and then gently blowing on the oil--instant heat! A word of warning, though: for some reason, warming oils tend to have heavier scents than their non-warming counterparts.
How (and Why) To Use Erotic Dusts
Body dusts are the most underrated and overlooked unguent of all the body play options. Oils, balms and other liquids can create heated, sensual encounters; body dusts are a nice change of pace. They also travel better than their oil-based cousins, reducing the risk of spilling a heavily scented oil all through your travel bag. A body dust is much like a light talcum powder that you sprinkle and then rub into your lover's skin.
Generally, body dusts are infused with erotic scents like honey or berry, and while they don't create any slippery friction, they'll leave the body extremely smooth for a unique feel. Most body dusts also come with a feather tickler of some sort to use when applying the dust to your partner's skin. If your dust doesn't come with one, we really recommend picking one up.
How To Use Arousal Balms
Arousal balms aren't really meant for full body massage; they're intended for concentrated use on sensitive parts of the body, such as the genitals, inner thighs and other erogenous zones. Most are flavored with an infusion of mint
Typically, one person puts a small amount on his or her finger, and then rubs it into the skin of the desired spot, further stimulating that area with their mouth or fingers. The arousal balm will tingle when first applied, and then often acts like a warming oil as it is stimulated, changing from a tingling sensation to a warming sensation--though some people experience a tingling sensation for longer.
If your lover--male or female--has sensitive nipples, arousal balms can take nipple play to a new level. We recommend starting slowly with a small amount of whatever arousal gel you're using, until you figure out exactly how powerful the effect on your partner is! Some people are more sensitive than others, and a small amount can send them reeling with sensation. While that might be a good thing sometimes, you don't want your lover to get woozy!
W/we would be remiss if we didn't give special attention to the sex industry's most ingenious invention,
Good Head Gel
This balm gets an A++ for turning oral sex into a Big Event. Not only does it add tingle and taste to the giver, but it also adds tingle and extra sensation to the receiver. One reminder: apply the gel to the mouth of the person giving oral sex and not to the organ of the person receiving. An organ slathered in minty gel will experience too much sensation, and sometimes pure discomfort. And, sorry ladies, but Good Head Gel doesn't seem to be as effective for cunnilingus--although you may feel differently. Here's another tip we learned the hard way: Do not reapply the Good Head Gel in an attempt to go the distance--it will make your mouth numb and you'll end up looking up at your lover and saying, "I pan't peel my bouth."
Finally, whichever sticky solution you decide to rub all over each other, make sure you talk about it before you pour it on. While there's a lot to be said for spontaneity, some people really don't like being slathered with substances. You'll do better if you determine which category your partner falls into before you haul out the "old" sheets!
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